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Nie zaczęło się od ciebie. Jak dziedziczona trauma wpływa na to, kim jesteśmy, i jak zakończyć ten proces

Nie zaczęło się od ciebie. Jak dziedziczona trauma wpływa na to, kim jesteśmy, i jak zakończyć ten proces

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  • Create Date：2022-12-12 09:53:00
  • Update Date：2025-09-06
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  • Author：Mark Wolynn
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Summary

Depresja， zaburzenia lękowe， chroniczny ból czy obsesje nie zawsze muszą być efektem wydarzeń， których doświadczyliśmy osobiście。 Ich korzenie czasem sięgają czasu naszych rodziców， dziadków， a nawet pradziadków。 Badania dowodzą， że traumatyczne doświadczenia mogą być przekazywane z pokolenia na pokolenie。

Niniejsza książka czerpie z wniosków czołowych ekspertów zajmujących się zagadnieniem zespołu stresu pourazowego， m。in。 Rachel Yehudy i Bessera van der Kolka。 Nawet jeśli osoba， która doświadczyła traumy， od dawna nie żyje， albo historia tego doświadczenia została zapomniana lub przemilczana – ślady emocjonalne tego zdarzenia mogą wciąż pozostać żywe。 Często są głęboko ukryte， zakodowane w genach i języku i mogą odgrywać znacznie większą rolę， niż do tej pory przypuszczano。

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Reviews

Nataleigha ，

Not worth reading No your parents do not have your key to your healing。 A child who endured abuse should not be labeled as “judgy” towards their parents whom are given the excuse to abuse？？Cutting off a certain parent does NOT limit your life experience if anything it can seriously save it。 Author contradicts himself through each chapter。if you want to read a book on how to comfort your abusive parent this is it。

Wed ，

#1 When we have an unresolved trauma from our childhood， we carry the memory of it inside us。 When we’re in a situation that reminds us of the trauma， our body reacts with the same#2 Trauma is often stored as unconscious memory。 #3 Traumas that live in our unconscious express themselves in our chronic symptoms， unexplainable behaviors， and repetitive struggles we face in our daily lives。 #4 Your feelings are trying to tell you what happened to you in the past。 If you listen to them， they will le #1 When we have an unresolved trauma from our childhood， we carry the memory of it inside us。 When we’re in a situation that reminds us of the trauma， our body reacts with the same#2 Trauma is often stored as unconscious memory。 #3 Traumas that live in our unconscious express themselves in our chronic symptoms， unexplainable behaviors， and repetitive struggles we face in our daily lives。 #4 Your feelings are trying to tell you what happened to you in the past。 If you listen to them， they will lead you back to the source of the pain。 。。。more

Juan ，

Esperaba mucho menos， pero tiene pasos muy concisos que ayudan cuando estas muy perdido。 Me gustó que no toma un enfoque vengativo （que estaría muy mal）， sino que te ayuda a entender， soltar y aprender。

Andie SlgCr ，

A bit repetitive but found some useful and interesting information。

Andreea Foca ，

I think this book provides us with helpful information about how genetics and the time before we are born can affects us。 I also find the examples from the author helpful in finding out where our fears come from。 However， I did miss validation and acceptance of the fact that some parents can be mentally or physically abusing their children。 Not everyone will easily forgive their parents for the abuse just because they had a tough past and lived through difficult times。 I do believe that having a I think this book provides us with helpful information about how genetics and the time before we are born can affects us。 I also find the examples from the author helpful in finding out where our fears come from。 However， I did miss validation and acceptance of the fact that some parents can be mentally or physically abusing their children。 Not everyone will easily forgive their parents for the abuse just because they had a tough past and lived through difficult times。 I do believe that having a good relationship with your parents is important， but I also think that it requires work from both parts， not only the children。 。。。more

Ayca Budak ，

Konuyla ilgili ve bilgili iseniz güzel bir kitap ama başlangıç kitabı olacak ise havada kalacaktır。

Ashley Schlegel ，

（Audio）DNF @ 75%First book I DNF in YEARS。 First couple of chapters were very interesting。 There was information re how stress causes hormonal changes that impact future generations and epigenetic changes， although， a lot of it kinda went over my head （and I'm a bit of a biology nerd）。Subsequent chapters seem like the concepts described were either over simplified or there were answers to relational issues that seem a little out there。 The author offeres many， many examples of his clients。 It be （Audio）DNF @ 75%First book I DNF in YEARS。 First couple of chapters were very interesting。 There was information re how stress causes hormonal changes that impact future generations and epigenetic changes， although， a lot of it kinda went over my head （and I'm a bit of a biology nerd）。Subsequent chapters seem like the concepts described were either over simplified or there were answers to relational issues that seem a little out there。 The author offeres many， many examples of his clients。 It becomes repetitive。 I guess I was expecting more scientific information and this is more philosophical。 。。。more

Shreya ，

Absolutely riveting。 Definitely read it， don’t listen to it as parts of it are a workbook。 I can see the truth of his theory and how it applies。 Great book。

Tammy ，

Some interesting concepts， but kind of out there for me。 Didn't finish。 Some interesting concepts， but kind of out there for me。 Didn't finish。 。。。more

Georgina Maria ，

Me gustó mucho， es llevadero y creo que más allá de descubrir o no un trauma del pasado， es un buen disparador de conversaciones familiares para conocer mas de nuestra historia

Courtney ，

I think this book was interesting but I wish it was supported by more actual scientific studies and less qualitative surveys。 The research is driven primarily by the author's own experience in clinical practice and that made it feel very biased。 Also， frankly， I don't believe in what this book is hypothesizing。 It's a huge leap to make without the support of plenty of research。I do appreciate that the author uses personal experience， research， and even references scripture to support his theory。 I think this book was interesting but I wish it was supported by more actual scientific studies and less qualitative surveys。 The research is driven primarily by the author's own experience in clinical practice and that made it feel very biased。 Also， frankly， I don't believe in what this book is hypothesizing。 It's a huge leap to make without the support of plenty of research。I do appreciate that the author uses personal experience， research， and even references scripture to support his theory。 It was well rounded， just a bit skewed toward his personal beliefs and thoughts。 。。。more

Lora Gradinarova ，

Very disappointing！ Pseudoscience and speculation， jumping to conclusions without any evidence。。

Alyssa ，

This book is really great an unfolding family trauma & discovering why you may be struggling in different aspects of life。 The one thing I didn’t like about this book was the amount of personal stories he uses to give examples it feels a bit excessive。 But overall a great read

Val ，

Reading this just gave me bad vibes and lots of scepticism。 Do not recommend。

Saratonin_NV ，

Pass。 Another white dude with outdated citations and references （enough with the Freud and women as primary caregivers talk）。 He’s pretty out of touch with current research， despite having quite a bit of training。 （But he’s not a psychologist）。 We all picked up this book because we wanted to learn about generational trauma。 Look up the Yehuda study and Read Emotional Agility by Susan David and Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson instead。

Kiersten Hayes ，

this book was weird af

dominika ，

Generalnie podchodziłam sceptycznie do tej książki， bo osoba która czytała ją przede mną zostawiła notatkę， by brać ją z przymróżeniem oka。 I faktycznie tak trzeba。 Autor opiera się na nieaktualnych teoriach i obiera bardzo specyficzną perspektywę， dlatego stwierdzam że nie będę się męczyć czytając ją。

Melda Ece ，

This book helped me gain a better awareness of my own traumas and contained convincing arguments about how family trauma was 'inherited' unconsciously。 I found most exercises such as the core language and the family history very helpful， however I wish the author explained 'epigenetics' more deeply and scientifically。 Overall， I would recommend this book to friends who would like to become more conscious of their personal & family traumas and find ways to heal repeated traumas。 This book helped me gain a better awareness of my own traumas and contained convincing arguments about how family trauma was 'inherited' unconsciously。 I found most exercises such as the core language and the family history very helpful， however I wish the author explained 'epigenetics' more deeply and scientifically。 Overall， I would recommend this book to friends who would like to become more conscious of their personal & family traumas and find ways to heal repeated traumas。 。。。more

Megan ，

How do I clearly explain that this book is awful？Let me count the ways。 1） The writer has an advanced degree in poetry and not in the material he is discussing and yet purports to be a “leading expert in the field of inherited family trauma”。 2） He tells readers that if they have any issue at all they must make up with their mothers specifically。 There is （nearly 100 pages in） a brief hint that perhaps reaching out to parents， if said parent isn’t safe， isn’t a great idea。 But it’s never clearly How do I clearly explain that this book is awful？Let me count the ways。 1） The writer has an advanced degree in poetry and not in the material he is discussing and yet purports to be a “leading expert in the field of inherited family trauma”。 2） He tells readers that if they have any issue at all they must make up with their mothers specifically。 There is （nearly 100 pages in） a brief hint that perhaps reaching out to parents， if said parent isn’t safe， isn’t a great idea。 But it’s never clearly stated。 3） His entire focus is on the maternal side of the family and how the break with the mother is the root of every issue。 4） He’s encouraging readers to do incredibly deep trauma work by themselves without seeking out the counsel of trained therapists or social workers or other mental/behavioral health professionals。 There’s more but you probably quit reading by this point anyways。 Look， there is some decent information buried in this text。 The field of epigenics is fascinating and this touches on some of that with some tools that could help a person begin to process some things。 But this book has incredible potential to cause serious harm。 If this field of study interests you， read Dr。 van der Kolk’s “The Body Keeps the Score” or Dr。 Gibson’s “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents” or even Dr。 Brene Brown’s newest “Atlas of the Heart”。 Please don’t read this book。 。。。more

Brooklyn ，

Of all of the mental health books I have read this month， this has been the most enlightening。 I have heard the term generational trauma/family trauma but apparently didnt fully know what it meant until reading the stories in this book。 The author explaining about how it LITERALLY did not start with us because we cannot control what happens to the mothers and grandmothers who carry us and how it affects our nature vs。 nurture。 Mind。 BLOWING。 The stories of how phrases and core traits/fears are p Of all of the mental health books I have read this month， this has been the most enlightening。 I have heard the term generational trauma/family trauma but apparently didnt fully know what it meant until reading the stories in this book。 The author explaining about how it LITERALLY did not start with us because we cannot control what happens to the mothers and grandmothers who carry us and how it affects our nature vs。 nurture。 Mind。 BLOWING。 The stories of how phrases and core traits/fears are passed down casually through conversations and accidentally get ingrained in multiple generations。。。again， just mind-blowing。 Thinking about what my family's basic fears and desires are and where they stemmed from。 What were phrases said repeatedly in my family that contribute to the toxicity？ It is there。Please read。 。。。more

Antor Chowdhury ，

Pretty good book。 Enlightening stuff on trauma but it did feel a bit like pseudoscience。 Still it was pretty interesting to read。

Sandra ，

Had hope that it will do something for me or provide a good insight but it just pissed me off， I understand that your relatives past can have an impact on your life but this book takes it to an uncomfortable extreme。 It’s not in my opinion that you have to mend all of your bridges to be whole again， if you read this book remember you don’t have to make amends with parents or relatives that just have been shitty to you。 It’s much safer and better to heal with in yourself without putting yourself Had hope that it will do something for me or provide a good insight but it just pissed me off， I understand that your relatives past can have an impact on your life but this book takes it to an uncomfortable extreme。 It’s not in my opinion that you have to mend all of your bridges to be whole again， if you read this book remember you don’t have to make amends with parents or relatives that just have been shitty to you。 It’s much safer and better to heal with in yourself without putting yourself in dangerous and uncomfortable situations。 。。。more

Manthisi ，

didn’t like most of it but there are insightful suggestions that might break through and make a difference one way。

Ripple ，

Great insight into generational trauma affecting the lineage years or even decades later， but the author was projecting onto the reader a lot of assumptions。 Things like relationships and parental roles， childhood experiences， some I agreed with some I certainly couldn't。 The book also felt overall like it was over simplifying hardships in and around reconciliation with family members， things that have spent years， decades， or generations to struggle through， as though the reader just had never Great insight into generational trauma affecting the lineage years or even decades later， but the author was projecting onto the reader a lot of assumptions。 Things like relationships and parental roles， childhood experiences， some I agreed with some I certainly couldn't。 The book also felt overall like it was over simplifying hardships in and around reconciliation with family members， things that have spent years， decades， or generations to struggle through， as though the reader just had never had the thought before about fixing these issues。 Again， lots of assumptions。 The prompts were thought provoking and the overall concept is fascinating， but take it with the grain of salt because after the first couple of chapters it's all examples anecdotal evidence。 Good read， would read again in a few years to see if my mind changed more on these thoughts。 。。。more

Mirichan ，

Me interesó la parte sobre epigenética pero la segunda mitad del libro no fue le que me esperaba。

Jade ，

Informative， yet also victim blame-y？ I don’t think anyone should rekindle any relationships in order to “heal” - but I’m no professional。 3 stars。

Tatra Cooley ，

Definitely an interesting read， some of it felt too convenient， but and too vague but the overall point was well received。

Anicka ，

E superbă cartea， însă atât de "grea"。。。Te trece prin toate stările， te răscolește。。。Poți simți nevoia să scrii， în timp sau după ce ai citit-o。。。 E superbă cartea， însă atât de "grea"。。。Te trece prin toate stările， te răscolește。。。Poți simți nevoia să scrii， în timp sau după ce ai citit-o。。。 。。。more

Jaclyn ，

I lost the credibility of this book when he used the bible to back his scientific studies。

Jaclyn Ellis ，

I lost the credibility of this book when he used the bible to back his scientific studies。

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